Anonymous said: Does being a christian who struggles with lust invalidate your faith? What if there is improvement, but slow improvement? Like... instead of viewing porn every day it goes to every week, then every month. Does God still love me even if I still fail but am trying to do better?
Thanks for such an honest question!
God will always love you. I cannot stress this enough! There is no sin you can commit that will invalidate your faith. Look at Peter, who denied Jesus 3 times in fear. Jesus said that he would be the rock on which the church would be built! He didn’t say “Oh, Peter, if you didn’t screw up, I would have accepted you.”
Because you are a Christian, you have the indwelling of the Holy Spirit, and that is why there is a part of you that no longer wants to sin. You have been made a new creation! Check out what Paul said:
"For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.
So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!
So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature a slave to the law of sin.” - Romans 7:18-25
As you can see, just because you are a Christian, that doesn’t mean that you will not sin or struggle. What matters is that you are struggling and fighting and praying to overcome the struggles of your sinful nature. You will always fight and struggle with sin until the Lord returns. Until then, what you need to know is that God loves you no matter what, and He is calling you to a greater life of freedom in Christ. So keep pursuing Him, and don’t give up!
There’s just one more thing you need to know:
Good people don’t go to Heaven. Forgiven people do. Jesus knows every sin that you have ever committed, and every sin that you will commit in the future. He took your punishment for all of them. If you confess and believe in your heart that Jesus is God and Saviour, you are forgiven. No strings attached. And that is why you are living differently, because you truly believe that He loves you and gave you the gift of eternal life. You cannot earn it, you can only accept it and pursue Jesus in love because of it!
So be open about your struggles. Find people that you can trust who will help you through it. Every Christian is struggling with something, so do not be ashamed!
I will be praying that you will find freedom from your addictions and sins, and that you will keep pressing on against your temptations. I will also pray that you will come to understand God’s unconditional love. If you have any other questions, don’t hesitate to ask!
God Bless and Much Love,
joeandmarnie replied to your post “Christians,”
Such poor thinking here, this isn’t lust. We were created to find the opposite sex beautiful. The lust being talked about in the Bible is immoral, with-out love and with with bad intention. Not the appreciation of God’s beautiful creation.
Yes, we should appreciate God’s beautiful creation. However, You are wrong about one thing. God did not purpose you to find (or search) the opposite sex to appreciate their beauty. You are created to find one person beautiful, as it is with Adam and Eve. Everyone is beautiful, and God’s purpose for marriage is that you would pursue ONE beautiful person for the rest of your life, and that is ordained by Him as your spouse. After all, What would be the problem with cat-calling if the men are just “appreciating God’s beautiful creation” and what is the difference between those men and you saying the same thing to your friends without the person’s knowledge? Whether you are talking about her behind, waist, breasts, etc. you are disrespecting her, yourself, and the Father because you would be abusing the design and purpose God has created. It is exactly the same when you begin entertaining those thoughts.
As is declared in Scripture, there is one man and one woman who shall be joined together, and that is when the beauty of the body and the enjoyment of sex are to be partaken in. As Christians, you have no right to satisfy your eyes, imagination, or your body with anyone who is not your spouse. Doing so exceeds the marital boundaries God has placed. That is why the Lord has said:
”But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” - Matthew 5:28
Would you tell your spouse that you thought another person was pleasing to your sight and you’d wish to stare at them all day? No? Then you have no right to replace that marital boundary with the lie of “freedom in singleness.” As you mentioned, that is not loving, and it is self-gratification. Pursue someone you find beautiful, but the minute you start allowing your imagination or eyes to wander, you are disrespecting him/her and their heavenly Father.
I will leave you with this: did David first sin with Bathsheba when he slept with her, or when he spotted her bathing and decided to entertain those thoughts? No doubt, all sin leads to destruction, and it clearly starts within your mind. As Jesus has said, “For out of the heart come evil thoughts…” - Matthew 15:19a
Friend, the only poor thinking that is being presented here is that you can gratify the cravings of your body and call it pleasant in the eyes of God. Everyone is beautiful, but only one person is meant for your enjoyment — your spouse.
"The problem is that tolerant has changed its meaning. It used to mean ‘I may disagree with you completely, but I will treat you with respect. Today, tolerant means – ‘you must approve of everything I do.’ There’s a difference between tolerance and approval. Jesus accepted everyone no matter who they were. He doesn’t approve of everything I do, or you do, or anybody else does either. You can be accepting without being approving.”
— Rick Warren
"It is not hateful to say that an immoral action is sinful. On the contrary, the most compassionate thing we can do is help people to turn away from sin. To ignore another person’s wrongful actions is a sign of apathy or indifference, while fraternal correction is motivated by love for that person’s well-being, as can be seen by the fact that our Lord Jesus himself urged such correction.” - Bishop Thomas Paprocki
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In our church culture, the hammer comes down hard when it comes to men objectifying women (as it should). However, in a very strange way, the objectification of men by women has been almost normalized in church culture. It is not taken seriously, and maybe this is because women are not taken seriously and/or are not viewed as sexual. Example:
Dude: “Man, did you see that hot chick? i love her body.”
Translation: He is lusting and he is disrespecting her.
Girl:"Ugh, he is so hot, i could stare at him all day."
Translation: She likes him. It’s not a big deal.
Within Christianity, women are worthy to receive the same accountability as men, especially when it comes to something as important as sexuality. Just to show how unbalanced this is, when was the last time you have seen a porn redemption group for women? Men are always focused on. So as Christians, let us hold our brothers and sisters accountable to the standard of the Lord who has said:
”Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body." - 1 Corinthians 6:18
This is not just for men, it is for all of God’s children. Women are important too.
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