Anonymous said: If for some reason this doesn't work as anon please keep this private. I'm christian and have been since I was 5. I am still a virgin since I'm not married, but I've been having more and more sexual thoughts. I am really struggling with sex. I know it is wrong outside of marriage and I have memorized scripture to support this belief, but I just want to do it so badly. But I don't want to betray God's love and I feel so alone and helpless. Please help.

Thanks for letting me know! So many people understand your struggle. Please see this post for my answer to struggling with sin.

Just as important, here is what you really need: 

Community.

As long as you want your temptations to remain a secret, you will fall. You need to surround yourself with people who will hold you accountable and call you out on the sinful and stupid decisions you make. Yes, it may make you look bad but that’s why we have Jesus. We are awful Christians with a much-needed Savior. 

So find those Christians in your life and confess your struggles to them. Bring your secrets into the light and let Jesus handle them. You’re not a good person and you are in need of forgiveness every day. So it’s time to start being honest with that and sharing your struggles with those who will hold you accountable. 

"Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." - Galatians 6:2


I hope this helps. Come off of anon and have a conversation with me if you still have things you want to sort out but you are not sure how to do it. Come into the light! 

God Bless, 

Samuel Assaf

Anonymous said: I don't want to bother you but I was wondering if you got my email relating with what I asked you before I went on a vacation?

Yes I have! I am actually replying to it right now. Hang in there! 

Anonymous said: I really appreciate that you took your time to answer my question. I will reply to what you said in your answer in an email because I am leaving tomorrow to go on a family vacation for a week. I will let you know when I send you an email (and let you know what my email is in a private message in case it gets to your junk folder). Anyway, thank you again for your thoughtfulness.

Thanks for being open with me and considering what I said. I’m so glad I’m having this conversation with you! Enjoy your vacation and I will talk to you soon. God Bless, friend. 

Anonymous said: Samuel, I was raised in a Christian family and I was even part of a ministry my second year of college but I have been an agnostic for awhile now. Naturally there are different interpretations of what happens in afterlife but I heard that someone can lose one's salvation if they turn away from God. When I was a follower of Christ, I believed that my name was written in the Book of Life so I don't know what would happen if I continue to live secularly. What are your thoughts?

Thanks for such a great question.

I used to be an agnostic for a while as well. I think what you need to know is the words of Jesus:

"Then he called the crowd to him along with his disciples and said: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. 35 For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me and for the gospel will save it. 36 What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul? 37 Or what can anyone give in exchange for their soul? 38 If anyone is ashamed of me and my words in this adulterous and sinful generation, the Son of Man will be ashamed of them when he comes in his Father’s glory with the holy angels.” - Mark 8:34-38

Here’s what you need to know about Jesus: He is 100% serious when He says that you need to follow Him. The truth is that the question, “Can you lose your salvation?” is irrelevant. Why? Because you don’t know if you were really loving and following Jesus. You might have been following your parents, the church, or just the way you grew up. Believing does not equal trusting and looking to Jesus as your King and leader. Instead of having your own faith, you might have been borrowing the faith of your parents or peers until you came to your own decision and decided that you just don’t know. 

Having said that, Jesus wants you to deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow Him because He is the only way to Heaven. He doesn’t want you to earn your salvation. He offers it freely; He paid for your debt on the Cross. He is asking you to accept His grace and live in relationship with Him. If you do not trust Jesus for your salvation, there is no one else that you can put your hope in. I’m not telling you this because I have to; I’m telling you this because I love you and I am deeply concerned for you. Jesus has lovingly given you fair warning.

I would love to connect with you over Skype and hear your story. This is more than just a simple question; we’re talking about your eternity here. So please don’t refuse this opportunity to connect with me. Inbox me off of anon and we can organize a time, or send me an E-mail to the address listed in my description. Either way, I know that you are taking yourself seriously, so please realize you have nothing to lose but possibly everything to gain if what I am saying is true.


I’m praying for you and I hope to connect with you soon. 

God Bless, 

Samuel Assaf

Anonymous said: you have a cute butt

Close to Sin, Far from God

Anonymous said:

I have been dealing with a particular sin for almost 6 years now, and although I have tried time and time again to quit, I still end up coming back to it, thought I’m not sure it could classify as an addiction. It’s gotten to the point where I’ve become desensitized to the guilt I used to feel. It’s took a toll on me mentally and got me in situations that have pretty much scarred me for life and as a result I feel farther from God than ever. I feel lost. I’d appreciate advice.

I said: 

Thank you for your sincere and honest confession. I will try to help you the best that I can.

There are four things that you need to know about yourself and two things about God. Let’s go ahead and start with you.


1. By nature, you are a sinful, mortal human being, but you are freed from that identity.

    Yes, you struggle with sin. You are easily tempted, easily deceived, and easily disobedient. But you know what? You are also rescued, restored, and forgiven. You have given up the fight because you have made your sin a part of your identity. Remember the identity Christ has given you, and walk in that newness of life. Paul demonstrated this clearly: 

So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me.” - Romans 7:17


2. Because you are made in the image of God, you are made to fight. 

Don’t settle. Don’t give up the fight. God made you for more than just living a life of self-gratitude and pleasure. He created you for change. He created you to be a creator, sustainer, and care-giver in this world. And that is why you feel empty, because you have begotten your purpose for temporary pleasure. Rise and fight the good fight of faith. You will be miserable until you give up the glory of yourself in order to glorify God.

For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want.” - Galatians 5:17


3. You have given way to apathy because you have allowed your body to rule over you.

Think about it this way: when you give in to your temptations, you allow those desires to become habits. When they become habits, they become addictions. When you are addicted you are no longer worshipping God, but you are now worshipping yourself or the objects of your addiction. In turn, you feel far from God because you have placed worthless idols in His place. Destroy your idols, overcome the desires of your body and pummel the darkness. I love the words of Jonah when he realized that he was caught up in God’s grace after he tried to abandon Him:

Those who cling to worthless idols turn away from God’s love for them.” - Jonah 2:8


4. Once you stop fighting, you have let sin win the battle. 

You need to view your temptations as something separate from yourself. It is your enemy. If you give in to your temptations, you are held accountable because you are stronger than them. Sin hasn’t forced you to do anything. So get rid of it. Kill it, before it kills you. 

Each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.” - James 1:14

Those are four things you need to know about yourself. You are believing lies about yourself and your identity, and you must choose to turn back to God, just as Jonah did.


Here is what you need to know about God:

1. God has given you a way of escape. 

Here’s the deal. You’ve been struggling with sin. You feel lost. You feel far from God. You don’t even feel guilty when you are tangled in your addictions or sinful habits. But that’s not how your story ends. I have some good news and bad news for you. But first, a truth about God: 

No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be temptedbeyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted,he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.” - 1 Corinthians 10:13

So here’s the bad news. Your sin is all your fault. You have allowed it to drag you into the street and bind you on the ground. You hold full responsibility for your sins. Because sin is out to kill you and not to please you, there will be consequences for that in this lifetime of which you have experienced some, most, or all of it

But here’s the good news. God is still faithful to you! Every time you are tempted, the Holy Spirit is inwardly convicting you to wage war. Make war against the schemes of the devil. The truth is that you may not feel guilty after you sin, but before you sin, you know better. If you struggle with pornography, get out of your privacy. Throw your computer away. wage war. If it’s drugs, cut off those relationships with your druggies and involve yourself in a recovery group. Wage war. God has given you the way of escape, so take it! It’s not the end of the road for you. Whatever you are dealing with, God is still providing you with the weapons and strategies you need to escape your temptations. Listen to Him. 

2. God is still with you. 

Even though you have sinned, committed idolatry, disobeyed, and lived in contrary to His will, He is still with you! James says that if you draw near to God, He will draw near to you. If you are the prodigal, God is the loving Father waiting for you to come home. So return to Him.

"The problem with most of us is that we’re just like the prodigal. We’ve got to be down eating pig-slop before we realize that what we’ve done has totally ruined our lives." - Billy Humphrey

You are empty, you are lost, and you are broken. That’s alright. It’s okay to not be okay. It’s just not okay to stay that way. So rise up from the lifestyle you have led and return to the Lord of glory who loves you so deeply and has never left your side. God is still faithful, even when we are not.

Turn to the light and rejoice and be glad, for you are loved and you are forgiven. 


God Bless and Much Love,

Samuel Assaf

Anonymous Asked: I struggle with the idea of God loving me. With grace. With truly being forgiven. I’ve been a believer for a long time but I still wrestle with these doubts all. the. time. I feel like should have moved on from this a long time ago. I’m worn out. Any advice for someone struggling to rest in Grace?


I Said:

Thank you for being honest and for seeking help. I have a few thoughts that I want you to remember every day of your life.


First, a teaching that you should write on your heart:


For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they keep you from being ineffective or unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. For whoever lacks these qualities is so nearsighted that he is blind, having forgotten that he was cleansed from his former sins.”2 Peter 1:5-9



I don’t know you. So what I’m about to say may be wrong, but I’m going to give it my best shot. The truth is that you are forgetting His all-forgiving grace because you are focusing on yourself. If you took time to pray and simply thank God for allowing you to breathe, smile, see wonder and beauty, and tell loved ones about it, you would see His love and grace. If you took the time to learn more about Him and sacrifice your time and efforts for others, you would see His grace. I’m not saying that He gives grace when we do good things. But when we open our hands to do good things, we open our hearts to understanding the compassion and mercy of God. I’ll tell you this: I don’t learn anything about God when I look at myself, but I learn everything about Him when I look at Him. Instead of listening to doubts and indirectly telling God that He doesn’t love you, listen to Him because He says he loves you. Look to Jesus and learn from Him and you will learn of His great love for us.


Another Scripture you need to be aware of:

And I heard a loud voice in heaven, saying, ‘Now the salvation and the power and the kingdom of our God and the authority of his Christ have come, for the accuser of our brothers has been thrown down, who accuses them day and night before our God.’” – Revelation 12:10

In Christianity, we believe that there’s a devil who is prowling as a lion, looking to devour the good in this world. Would it be unordinary for him to convince you to doubt the goodness of God? Has he not done that since the Fall of Man? Realize that there is more going on than what you see. Every time you doubt the love of Christ, realize that you are just playing right into the devil’s hands. Every time you doubt the love of Christ, pray that this temptation to refuse the goodness of God is a lie. Do not lie to yourself and do not allow yourself to be lied to.


I don’t know your story, but I do know God’s grace. In my limited human nature, I cannot possibly fathom how much He loves us. From what Christ has said, I do know that it extends past what I can do. Jesus never said to anyone, “Is that the best you can do? You’re pathetic.” Instead, He said “Deny yourself and follow me.” He isn’t asking you to live better. He’s asking you to live differently. He’s asking you to live in relationship with Him.


The point is this: God’s grace is more than just forgiving your sin. God’s grace frees you to receive a better life than you could ever hope for. God isn’t looking for those with a perfect record to give grace to. He is looking for the captured and bound. He is looking for slaves to set free. That is love. That is Grace.

So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” – John 8:36


God Bless and much love,

Samuel Assaf

Anonymous said: our day went well. didnt really talk about anything in particular. just focusing on building a real relationship with her. please pray. her name is nicole (:

That’s great! Feel free to come off of anon if you have any other things you want to tell me! :) 

Anonymous said: thank you so much for that info. i appreciate the prayers as well (: were hanging out on tuesday - maybe something will come up.

Let me know how it goes! :)

Sharing the Faith: The Keys to Witnessing.

Anonymous Said: how does a christian go about witnessing/talking to a wiccan? i have a wiccan friend that i desperately want to share Christ with. thank you!


I said:


Thank you for being passionate about spreading the Gospel of our Lord to the world! 

I have 4 things to say about witnessing that are key in sharing our faith:


1. Do more listening than talking.

Before you engage in a conversation about faith, the person you are trying to reach needs to understand that you care about their beliefs, emotions, life, and everything. They need to know you are trying to win them, not a debate. Ask them questions about what they believe. Do research on it. Show that you sincerely care about what they believe and the way they are thinking about it.


2. If you don’t know something, you don’t know.

When they say something and you feel stumped, don’t pretend to know the answer. You can’t be Google for God. Tell them that what they said is challenging you and you will look into it and then let them know what you have found. You are very easy to defeat, but the truth is not. Approach challenges and questions with humility and love, not just knowledge.


3. You are dealing with a person, not an ideology. 

Make it a conversation, not a debate. Get to know the person. Do life with them. Don’t just leave room for verbal communication of the love of Christ, but also lead with your actions, generosity, patience, and behavior. People need to know that you want something for them, not from them. When people know this, they are far more likely to listen and respect what you have to say.


4. Everyone believes something different, regardless of the labels.

Even if someone says they are Christian, Muslim, Atheist, or Hindu, it doesn’t mean that they ascribe to all of the beliefs that you may read in books or hear about through videos on the internet.Parts of their beliefs could be entirely different. Take the time and patience to ask for their thoughts on the questions you have. Don’t label them.

Having said that, focus on building a healthy relationship with that person and be patient. Change takes time and very few people change overnight. Be available for them and help them understand the Gospel, but what matters is that they remember what they need to know when they need it the most. A few years down the road, they might remember what you told them and it could spark a beginning of repentance and a journey of faith.


More specifically, You can check out this resource for helpful information on Wicca. Just remember to ask questions and not assume your friend believes the things that you read! You could show your friend parts of the website and ask for his/her opinion about it, too.

I hope this has helped! I will be praying that you are equipped in character and understanding so that you may be approachable by anyone of any faith.

If there’s anything else I can do for you or if you have any other questions, don’t hesitate to ask.

God Bless and Much Love,

Samuel Assaf

Anonymous said: what is your one game that that completely ruined you like for better or worse that one game with a plot that destroyed your insides and characters that stole your heart and art and design that reduced you to tears and you just want to hold the game in your arms and cry like a small child bc it’s your game??

Final Fantasy X or Kingdom Hearts.

eternallyforevereverythinglove said: What do you think about the preaching nowadays and how can a Christian who believes the entire Gospel rebuke fellows who follow false teachings? Thanks in advance, bless you! :)

I am assuming you are talking about true Christians with inaccurate theology. 

When it comes to false teaching, the goal of the Christian is not to rebuke but to restore. Most of the time, people do not realize that they are following false teaching and they are just believing what they have always been taught. What they need is a conversation and someone to ask them questions and go through the Bible with them together. They don’t need someone punching their opinion and beliefs in the face because they don’t have perfect or accurate theology. If the person observes and acknowledges that you understand their point of view and the way they believe, they will be far more likely to listen to you.

In any case, I don’t think that Christians should rebuke others for following false teachings. I think Christians should privately and lovingly rebuke Christians for sinful lifestyles, unrepentant living, and poor behaviour (things that they themselves know they are doing wrong).

In a church setting, I think that Christians who believe false teaching should be withheld from leadership positions until they are restored and taught sound doctrine, but they shouldn’t be removed from the only place where they could be restored.

P.S. I have an entirely different opinion on false teachers and wolves in sheep’s clothing. I am talking about true Christians who have mixed up doctrine. 

Your question was broad, so I hope this answered it. Feel free to ask any more!

God Bless,

Samuel Assaf

Anonymous said: Why didn't they play cards on the Ark? Because Noah was standing on the deck.

He would have died if he was standing on the deck.

0/10

imhorribleatnamingthings said: Do you care at all about the women whose lives have been saved because of abortion? Or what about the women who were able to make it through the trauma of rape because they got an abortion? Or what about mentally ill women who got an abortion to keep themselves sane and stable? Do those women just not matter to you? It really seems like you care more about the well-being of fetuses than you do about the well-being of women, and that attitude scares me quite a bit.

Look up statistics of why people get abortions and don’t explode the very small percentage. All of your questions are misleading. Abortion is not the ultimate solution to the problems of those women. In almost all cases, problems can be solved without abortion. Look up some statistics. 

For the record? Of course I care. You know that. You’re using strawmen in order to excuse me and reject my arguments. If you were really desiring to be rational and consider my opinion, you’d spend more time asking real questions instead of trying to paint my character in a bad light. so I will end this conversation right here.

Good night.

sweetlittlemisscurious said: But do you think you should tell others what to do with their lives and their body? And as a man, should you even have an opinion about this? How can you understand/relate when you could never be in that position? And why do you think you can decide better than a woman, what is best for her? (About the abortion issue)

I do think I should tell others what to do with their lives and their bodies. I think it is a moral obligation and a service to society. If someone is not eating well, we should be loving enough to instruct them on how to eat better. If someone suffers with substance addiction, we should be loving enough to speak out. If someone is harming another, we should certainly speak out. The idea that I should mind my own business is the same idea that causes bystanders to watch others get raped, robbed, murdered, abused, etc. I am not telling others what to do for the sake of it; I am giving light to truth about an important issue. Life matters, and we should speak up for the defenseless. If I was on the side of abortion, would you tell me to stop giving my opinion and telling pro-life people to stop being vocal? If so, that would be very hypocritical.

I understand that I cannot receive an abortion, but I know that there are plenty of male abortionists and supporters of abortion. What about them? 
Gender has nothing to do with this. There are millions of women who are vocal against abortion. If the child was outside of the womb, my gender would not be an issue here. Just because the baby has not exited a vagina does not mean that this is an issue only available for discussion between women.

Please understand my heart. I am against abortion because I believe it is the shedding of innocent blood. Look up the methods for how they dispose of the children. Research pictures of aborted babies. If you are not horrified, I will be speechless.